I’ve been practicing non-sexual mutual masturbation for years. I’ll get together with a friend, typically a guy, but occasionally a girl, and we’ll ‘do’ each other. It’s kind of nicer if it’s a girl, because I’m more heterosexual than gay, but since I’m not particularly attracted to these people, it doesn’t really matter. You see, it’s more about friendship, and good feelings, having a nice time, than something truly sexual. So, it doesn’t really matter if it’s a male or female person, or what their age is, how much they weigh, or anything else. As long as they are not repulsive. Oh, and one more thing: They have to be decent, good-hearted people. I don’t want to hang out with someone of loose morals, addictions, or bad health habits.
The typical arrangement is that he or she will get on a bed or massage table, and I’ll work on that person, bringing him or her to an orgasm, or ideally, a whole bunch of orgasms.
Then we trade positions, and they do the same for me. We don’t usually cum right away. We’ll trade back and forth for a while, so each person gets several opportunities to enjoy the wonderful feelings.
You might call it all about handjobs, but that term is loosely defined. It might involve light or firm testicle massage, inner labia pulling, glans rubbing, asshole fingering, and other such manual activities. For me, toys aren’t usually part of the practice, but there’s nothing wrong with toys. Sometimes clothes pins, testicle presses, butt plugs, or even catheters can be involved.
As you’ve read in other articles here on Sex270, my friends and I have worked on multiple or continuous orgasms. It takes a lot of practice for most guys. Some of the women naturally have continuous or multiple orgasms.
So, in summary, it’s not about sexual attraction. It’s about having a nice activity to enjoy with friends and associates, maybe even family members. It’s like playing basketball, watching a movie together, or going on a picnic, but better.
Is this something you’d enjoy with your friends, family or associates?
Never heard of it before but it sounds fun!
I don’t agree that it’s non-sexual. It may be non-loving or non-emotional but it’s not non-sexual. If another person jacks you off, no matter the circumstances, that’s a sexual act. I had an occasional girl friend with the emphasis on the “friend” part. We met frequently and practiced handjobs, blowjobs, and all out fucking. We were just friends but all of those things we did were sex acts. Of course finding a woman willing to be in that type of relationship is usually not easy. Women tend to want to be “in love” or at least think they are if they are going to engage in sex with a man.
I suppose whether a thing is considered ‘sexual’ or not is really based on a nebulous definition. Like, where do you draw the line between a creek and a river?
It does seem that women are much more interested in committed relationships than men – in general.
I have had a few hand job buddies, girls, one liked giving hand jobs, her stipulation was we both had to be naked. She would do me then I would do her, back and forth until we could not do it any more. The thing was we were not in a hurry. The other girlfriend was just into masturbation, watching and being watched, she liked to use normal objects as toys, handles, candles etc. Lastly I don’t know if it fits but I like a good CFNM session too.
This seems to be related to a friends with benefits situation, but more limited, since it doesn’t include actual intercourse or oral sex.
I’m sorry, did you say “family”!?