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Short memoir by a person with a small penis

It was my friend Jason who first told me. I mean wanking with him, it was obvious that his cock was bigger than mine, but I hadn’t given it much thought. I just thought he was extraordinarily large. Then later, my second serious girlfriend, Mattie, confirmed it. Until then, I didn’t realize my cock was smaller than anyone else’s. It turns out I masturbate and fuck just like anyone else. I mean, my orgasms are just like your orgasms. I’m sure every bit as strong. Maybe stronger. The only differences are:

1. When I stroke, it’s usually with my thumb and just one finger. Sometimes two fingers.

2. Mattie told me that she couldn’t really feel my cock in her cunt. In order to give her orgasms, I had to either use my tongue, fingers, or rub my cockhead all externally against her clit. But she also told me that most women aren’t satisfied, I mean orgasmically, with ordinary fucking.

So, maybe around age 19, I figured out that I really do have a small cock. Since I’m otherwise well-proportioned, and I’m told I have a ‘winning’ personality, I’ve not had any more trouble than the next guy making and keeping friends.

However, I do have a high libido. I really like sex, and even more, I have to admit, I just love masturbating with friends, either male or female. That, I can’t get enough of. I really wanted more, since opportunities were few and far between. Then my confidence coach told me to ‘just go for it.’

At first, I didn’t really understand, and I felt too shy, and, well, I’m sure you know. You don’t just walk up to people you barely know, and say, “Hey, wanna fool around?”

Well, it turns out, I found a way in. A sort of secret passage that works every time. It’s no secret really, and I’m sure you ordinary-cocked guys can come up with something similar.

With a new potential friend, I’ll steer the conversation to sexual matters. It doesn’t take much. Most people are secretly thinking ‘sex’ all the time. Often, they bring up something risque first. I just guide the conversation a little bit. I’ll admit that I have a small cock. Then, I steer the conversation a bit more until I can say, “Wanna see how small it is?” Or, “Let’s see how it compares to yours.” What guy can resist that?

Of course, once the cocks are out, it’s not much of a journey to mutual wanking.

With the girls, the conversation can go more like, “Have you ever been with a guy who has a small cock?” Or, “If a guy had a small cock, let’s say, would you be satisfied with what he could do with his fingers and tongue?” Or, better yet, “My cock is small, but a lot of cum spurts out. Want to see?” Oddly, they almost always say “Yes.”

Here’s the bit that I particularly am proud of: Almost everyone I’ve been with says they are particularly attracted to my small penis. So, I keep it hairless to enhance the effect. I think I look like a little kid, but hey, if they like it, it’s OK with me!

Shower Exhibitionist

I saw what you wrote about the guy who had a college roommate who jerked off in front of him all the time. Who is it?

[I’m not going to say.]

Come on, I probably know him. I might have seen him in your waiting room, right?

[You know I can’t reveal that!]

Well anyway, it made me remember a time that I felt the same way. Like, “Oh, if only I was as bold and free as that guy.”

You see, our YMCA is old-school. I mean the shower room isn’t individual stalls the way they are in most modern buildings. We have a large tiled square room with like six shower heads along each wall. You walk up to one, turn it on, and shower in front of all the guys. No big deal right?

But one day, just this one time, there was a guy in there I hadn’t seen before. He was young. My age, maybe 26. He was tall, thin and had longish black hair. Well the thing about him, and he started off normally enough – soaping up his hair, his shoulders, his underarms, working his way down to his feet. Then he rinsed all the soap off. I thought nothing about it, although I glanced over from time to time.

Oh, I’m not gay, or at least not very much, but I do check the guys out, especially the good-looking ones. And, sometimes the older gents. There’s something about a gray-haired man that makes you respect him and want to know him, and something more. He’s kind of attractive in a way. I mean, a little bit.

Well anyway, this young guy finishes rinsing off, and I figured he’d walk right past me to get his towel. I always take a shower head near the entrance, so people have to walk right past me. So maybe I’m a bit more gay than I care to admit. [He laughs.]

But he stayed under the water spray. Then he did the most unexpected thing. He started playing with his cock. Right there in front of everyone. There were about four other guys in the room, plus me, and we all had a clear view of this guy.

Pretty soon he was jerking off in earnest. His penis was fully erect, and after a couple of minutes, he was rocking up on his toes, convulsing – you could see his calf muscles working, and ejaculating into the drain at his feet.

Then, he turned off the shower, walked past me, got his towel and left.

We, me and the other guys in the shower room, we kind of know each other a little bit, and we often have brief conversations in the shower. Not this time. We were shocked. No one said a word.

The guy had made a bit of eye contact with each of us, but nothing more, except when he walked past me, like when he was just three feet (one meter) away, he winked at me and smiled.

I’ve never seen him since. However, for the next several months, I was a very dedicated gym member. I was exercising 4 or 5 times a week. My wife thought my new fitness craze was good for me, but missed my company. I kept hoping to see him again, but nothing.

I have no idea what would have happened had he come back. Would he have repeated the performance? Would I, or anyone else there, copy him? Would we possibly even get more involved? You hear about blowjobs in public showers and all that. But maybe most of all, I’d like to have known his story. Why did he do that? Was he an exhibitionist? Did he think it was normal? Was he making a statement?

I guess I’ll never know. But here’s the thing: I keep thinking someone has to carry on in his tradition. I mean, what if I jerked off in the shower at the Y? Wouldn’t that be a great and interesting thing to do? I’m sure no one would ‘bust’ me or anything. I could just do it, and see what happens. And yet I haven’t, and probably never will.


I’ll admit that I’m a gym rat. Pretty much every day after work, I spend exactly one hour working out. Then I hit the shower, and sometimes the sauna or hot tub. The hot tub is a community hot tub, meaning men and women, so of course you have to wear trunks in there. There are two saunas in the gym, one for men, the other for women.

As is the tradition, men go naked into the sauna, but generally with towels wrapped around their mid section. Most of the guys keep the towels during their time in the steam. A few let the towels fall partially open. I’ve always wondered if some of them are trying to show off a bit. A few others will remove their towels entirely, but that’s rare.

So, one day I was in there, with about five other guys, and a fit-looking older man, one I had never seen before, maybe around 60 or 65 years old was in there. At first I paid him no attention. Then he removed his towel and placed it between his shoulders and the wall. Not a bad idea, since that wall gets a bit too hot, but it’s nice to lean against. That left his genital region exposed, of course. But the thing is, his penis was fully erect. Just standing straight up at attention.

He seemed to pay it no mind. As soon as I saw that, I immediately looked away. I guess I was thinking I didn’t want to embarrass the man by seeming to stare at him. Or, was I more concerned about embarrassing myself by being seen to stare at him? I’m still wondering about that. You see, my brain was juggling a swirl of thoughts at that moment. I thought the idea of a guy with an erection in the sauna was somehow sexy. Now, I’m mostly into women, but I can enjoy seeing a good dick now and then. I think a lot of guys are like that, but they won’t admit it. I mean, to see some porn where a guy with a good firm dick is plunging it into a sexy woman is a real turn on. I think I feel a sort of solidarity with the guy, maybe kind of imagining that’s me.

Anyway, this guy was just sitting there with his erection, seemingly not caring. I wondered what was really going on in his mind? Was he showing off? Was he just being more natural than the rest of us in the room dared? So, another thing I was feeling was a sort of pride for him. Oh, if I only had the balls to just show my erection in the sauna like that, and not care what others think of me.

Another part of me really wanted to join him in his erectness. All I needed to do would be to throw off my towel, too, and let my penis grow. I found it interesting that it wasn’t already erect under the towel. I guess I’ve trained myself not to get erections in situations like this. Back in my high school days, if I had developed an erection in the locker room, I would have been jeered, called ‘gay’ and who knows what. So I think I have learned to stay soft in such circumstances.

While I was thinking all this, the guy actually started to stroke himself, right there in front of five other guys. Imagine that! He was jerking off in the sauna, and we all saw it. I glanced around. Couldn’t help it. I needed to know what was happening with the other guys.

Every one of them was still wearing his towel. They were trying hard not to look at the guy, as if they were trying to give him some privacy or something. Even though most of us knew each other on a gym-acquaintance basis, no one said a word.

The guy kept wanking, and I swear, he seemed to be humming a song, but so quietly, I couldn’t quite tell. It sounded like “Ride Like The Wind” by Christopher Cross. After a minute or two, he arched his back, moaned a bit, and ejaculated into his free hand, which he then rubbed on the towel. A moment later, he wrapped that towel around his mid-section, nodded once and said “Gentlemen” as he stepped out of the sauna. At the last second, he turned at the door, looked right at me, and winked.

My brain raced. Why did he wink at me? ME! What was he saying? And should I be embarrassed? Quite possibly, the other men in the room saw the wink. Would they be thinking about me?

I sat there in the sauna for another few minutes, trying to get my brain back under control. I decided I had to find out more about this guy. So, I stepped out of the sauna and looked for him in the locker room. I figured I could ask him what the wink meant. Was he just acknowledging me? Maybe he was just expressing appreciation for me allowing him to do that without saying anything. Maybe because I was the youngest in the room. Or maybe, just maybe, there was more to it than that. Like, maybe he was inviting me to become his friend. Friend with benefits. There was a part of me that would have really liked that. To have a wank buddy. How cool that would be!

Sadly, I looked around the locker room, but he had already left. I’ve never seen him since. I noticed there was a big motorhome in the parking lot. Might he be a traveler who does that in gyms all around the country? I have jerked off many times thinking about that guy, and he has given me more incentive than ever to go to the gym every night. I almost never miss a few minutes in the sauna now. I’m secretly hoping he’ll come back someday. But more than that, I’m also harboring a secret fantasy. I think someday, I need to become that man. More than once, I’ve been sitting right there in the sauna and thinking to myself that I could throw off my towel and start jerking off right there in front of the other guys. I don’t think I’d get in any sort of legal trouble or anything. But, I’ve never done it, and now I’m actually kind of worried that I never will.

RV Hot Tub Oops

RV Hot Tub Oops

I was at an RV resort with my big old diesel pusher motorhome. I had stayed there for a while, because even though it’s fun driving the thing, packing up everything inside so it doesn’t crash around, unhooking the cables and hoses, then hooking back up and unpacking elsewhere is a big deal, so I didn’t change locations all that often. I had gotten to know people at the RV park, especially the people in the office, pretty well.

They had a public pool and hot tub. Sometimes my wife would join me in the hot tub. Sometimes we’d meet other couples in the hot tub and have great conversations.

One particular evening before dark, it was cold out, so I was the only one who ventured into the tub. There was no one around. I turned on the jets for a while, but it seemed kind of noisy, so I turned them back off to enjoy a nice quiet, warm soak. An important detail is that when the jets are running, the surface of the water is obscured with suds. When off, it’s crystal clear.

I started getting horny. Since no one was around, I eased out of my trunks, and started idly playing with my penis. Pretty soon, I was solidly erect, and wanking pretty vigorously. Now, I wouldn’t cum in the hot tub. That would be gross for anyone who might come in later or the next day.

That’s not a problem for me. I’ve learned to master continuous orgasms without ejaculating, which is great fun. I’ve written that up elsewhere on this website. So there I was dry orgasming away, when I happened to look up. There on a pole, overlooking the hot tub, was a perfectly positioned security camera.

The picture above is the very penis that I’m sure everyone in the office got a good view of.

Roommate in College

Roommate in College Wanking

I was immediately attracted to my first college roommate. Oh, I don’t mean in a sexual way, but this guy was somehow kind of special. He was perhaps 2 inches taller than me, thin, had long wavy hair, but the main thing was his wry smile and a kind of twinkle in his eye. When he’d talk with you, in his usual way of using few words, and mostly asking questions, sometimes quite personal questions, you could swear that he winked at you once or twice.

I knew that even though I’d miss my family, this would be a great year with Kevin as a roommate.

I was honored that he wanted to join me in the cafeteria during our first week. I didn’t know anyone there, and was rather too shy to make friends. We talked about his family and my family. Mostly my family. Every now and then people would come up to him and say ‘Hi Kevin,’ as if they’d known him for ages. How did he do that? They also treated him kind of like a movie star. I mean, he wasn’t famous or anything, he grew up on a farm in a fairly isolated small town, but people acted as if he was someone special.

About the second week, I barged into our dorm room and was immediately, totally embarrassed – for Kevin. There he was, without a stitch of clothing on, sitting sideways in his chair next to his computer, jerking off. I was like, “Oh… um… I’ll come back later…”

As casual as if we were in the cafeteria eating, he said, “Naw Jason, it’s cool. I don’t mind if you’re here.”

I really wanted to leave, but under the circumstances, bolting out of the room seemed even less appropriate than staying. In fact, I was frozen in the doorway, with one hand on the knob, not quite knowing what to do.

He kept jerking off. I saw on his computer a still image of a woman with her ass up in the air. She was wearing a bikini, but it had slipped to one side, partially showing her asshole – definitely pornography.

I don’t know how long it took me to come away from the door. I believe, looking back on that moment, that I had been holding the door open. It was a busy hallway outside. Anyone could have come by and seen Kevin all naked and erect and masturbating like that. Yet, he didn’t seem to care.

Finally, I came in the room, took off my jacket, and sat down at my own desk. I tried to engage in some studying, but couldn’t focus. Every now and then, without trying to seem obvious, I’d turn around a little bit to see Kevin. He was still wanking away. Nothing was said between us.

After a couple of minutes, I quietly heard him say “Mmmm.” I had to glance over, and he was arching his back, kind of pushing his long, hard penis forward, and obviously about to ejaculate.

“Mmm, Oh!” and then, “Jason!”

I looked again. He was cumming into a few sheets of toilet paper. Why he called my name, I didn’t understand for a long time afterward. Today, I realize it wasn’t a sexual thing. He just wanted me to see, the way a kid riding a bike without hands wants you to watch.

In fact, it didn’t seem to be a sexual thing at all with him. Over the next few months, it happened many times. We’d be studying, and he’d go over, lay on his bed, and jerk off. Or he’d do it in his chair. He asked me if I wanted to join in like 20 times.

I always politely declined. It was out of pure shyness. I so, really, totally wanted to jerk off with him! But there was no way I could admit it. Oddly, he seemed fine with that.

Instead, I’d ever so quietly jerk off under my blankets in bed at night, after I figured he had gone to sleep. I always felt so sneaky, like, ‘he’d better be asleep, because I don’t want to be caught.’

The year ended without me ever once being so much as seen naked by Kevin. He was happy as a clam, no matter what. He had lots of friends. I have no idea what his sex life was like. Was he banging some of the girls he hung out with? So far as I know, they never had private time in our little dorm room. Was he gay? Again, I have no idea. He had lots of friends of both sexes.

Even with the crazy jerking off business, I really liked Kevin. I secretly hoped I could get bold enough to wank with him. The more I thought about it, the more I really wanted it, and yet, I could never, ever, bring myself to do it!

To this day, even though I’m well established in a research laboratory, and have done some ground breaking work in pollution eating bacteria, I’m still totally shy. Oh, I can get up in front of 200 colleagues and give a speech. In fact that’s easy. But to talk with a woman, that’s a totally different matter. I finally managed to trap Maggie. She’s the most wonderful woman in the world! Oh, maybe not much to look at, but she is my wife, my companion, and my true, true friend. Of course we’ve had sex. Lots of it! But I’ve never let her see me masturbate. I’ve got to work on that.

Boy’s Guide to Masturbation

This post has been written because you may not have complete and accurate information on sex and masturbation. I hope you find it informative and interesting.

Many still find this subject taboo, something that can’t be spoken or written about, but as you will see, even though you may have hidden yourself under the covers to read this article, it is a subject that is very important to talk about and one that we should believe should be openly discussed.

What You’re Working With

Many boys, as well as grown men and women don’t know the names of all the parts of the penis. The most common parts are labeled in the photo above. You might like to know that the ‘meatus’ is more commonly called the ‘peehole.’ The head of the penis is more accurately called the ‘glans.’ The bottom edge of the glans is called the ‘corona.’ You penis may have more or less foreskin than the one shown.

What is masturbation?

Masturbation, also known as ‘wanking,’ ‘jerking off,’ ‘rubbing one out,’ ‘fapping,’ or a thousand other names, is a way of giving yourself pleasure. Generally, this is done by touching and stimulating your penis, also known as ‘dick,’ or ‘cock.’ Masturbation usually ends with an orgasm. That’s a feeling like none other. It starts with a kind of very pleasurable chill and ends with a delicious pulsating feeling in your penis and lower body.

Why masturbate?

Masturbation has a whole range of mental and physical health benefits as listed on the home page of this website. The biggest reason is probably because it gives you relief from horniness. Horniness is a frustrating sexual desire feeling. Most boys get horny from time to time. Many are horny several times a day.

It will also give you relief from something some boys get that is known as epididymal hypertension or in slang ‘blue balls’, where your testicles become mildly painful.

What’s wrong with masturbation?

Until recently, masturbation was frowned upon by most of society. People almost never talked about masturbation. When it came up at all, it was usually discussed in a negative way. People almost never admitted to jerking off, even though almost everyone did it. Furthermore, parents would get mad at their children if they caught them jerking off, even though the parents did it also.

This strange culture has its roots in religion. Centuries ago, religious leaders realized that the best way to control people is through guilt. What better way to make everyone feel guilty, than to shame them for something practically everyone does? Generation after generation, the shame thickened, until society in general was dead set against masturbation, even though no one knew why. People were against it because their friends and neighbors were against it, because their friends and neighbors were against it, and so on. That’s all they knew.

Fortunately, times are changing. But they haven’t changed all the way yet. You may discover that your parents will be very upset if you are caught masturbating, or even talk about it. You may find your friends make terrible fun of you if you even bring it up.

Now, as millions of people have finally discovered, there’s nothing at all wrong with masturbation!

Who masturbates?

Even though most of them will never talk about it, your friends, your cousins, your brothers and sisters, your teachers, your grandparents, teachers, your minister, your aunts, uncles, even your parents masturbate.

Am I too young to masturbate?

No one is too young, although for boys before a certain age, there isn’t much interest, orgasms may not happen, and ejaculation isn’t yet possible.

Many boys will get an erection when they need to pee due to the pressure on the nerves controlling the bladder. This may mean that they pull at their penises and may also do it when they are nervous, tired, or just in need of emotional support or something to hold on to or to touch. They do feel pleasure from this, but it can’t really be called masturbation.

Can I become too old to masturbate?

I know a guy who is 88 years old and masturbates nearly every day. If anything, masturbation improves with age. Interestingly, people don’t usually stop masturbating when they are married. They do it in addition to or along with sex with their wives.

So, I have decided I want to masturbate, what now?

If you already know how to masturbate, you can skip this section. On the other hand, you may learn something unexpected.

Make sure you have enough time and privacy. Ask your family not to barge into your room or bother you. If you and your family are good at communication, you can actually say something like, “I’m going to masturbate, so please don’t disturb me for a while.” That may not work in your family. You’ll have to judge how open they are to the concept of masturbation.

Perhaps you have already established an arrangement with those at home where they have learned to knock before entering your room. If the door is closed, you knock. Everyone deserves privacy.

Have a nice meal beforehand and go to the bathroom if you feel the need.

Never lock your door. Locking a bedroom door is dangerous for medical and fire reasons. You might enjoy setting the lighting the way you’d like and put on some nice music.

You might like to do this after a bath or shower, so you are clean, refreshed, your hands are warm, and perhaps you are already naked. You can masturbate while clothed or nude. Most people prefer being nude if there is time enough to undress and dress. Some, will simply lower their pants and underwear. Some also enjoy slowly undressing as they become more aroused (excited).

I like to recommend starting with a full body examination and admiration of yourself. It doesn’t matter if you could add or lose some weight, whether you are tall or short, or if your hair isn’t right. This is the time to absolutely enjoy who you are. You might like to look at yourself in a full-length mirror. Notice your chest, your butt, and of course your penis. It is not only OK to touch yourself, it is great. Runs your hands over your sides, your arms, between your legs, over your butt, and just enjoy the sensations.

Your penis may or may not become erect (‘erection,’ ‘boner,’ ‘woodie,’ ‘hardon’) at this point. Either way is fine.

You might get a kick out of very lightly running your fingers over various parts of your body, especially your ass, nipples and your scrotum (‘ballsack’). You may find that touching your nipples gives you an exquisite sensation. Touch these areas very, very lightly for maximum effect. If you have genital hair, touch your scrotum so lightly at first that only the hairs are touched. We think you’ll be surprised by the sensation.

You may also be ticklish. That’s normal, and generally goes away as one gets older. See if you can touch yourself in pleasurable ways that don’t tickle. For you, a heavier touch may be needed in the ticklish places.

Whenever you are ready, you can wrap your fingers around your penis. Then, slowly start moving your hand up and down, so you’re sort of gently stretching the skin along your penis. You may like to let your hand glide over the head of your penis, lightly or firmly and paying attention to the little bit of skin called the ‘frenulum’ directly under your penis head (‘glans’).

Chances are, this will feel very nice. If not, give it time. There’s no hurry, right?

Just keep moving your hand up and down. If you have had any sexy thoughts lately, let your imagine run wild. You may have thought of a girl or boy or man or woman you find particularly attractive. You may have seen someone wearing little or no clothing in a book, on the internet or in person. Picture whatever you’d like in your mind.

Fantasy is a major component in most masturbation. It is OK to fantasize about any safe activity with any person. It may not be at all appropriate to act on those fantasies, but it is totally OK to let your mind wander to sexy situations.

Do your fantasies concern you? For instance, you may find yourself thinking about a boy or man. Interest in men is called ‘homosexuality,’ or ‘gay.’

As it turns out, everyone is on a bisexual spectrum. That means that no one is 100% straight (interested only in women), or gay (interested only in men). Oh, some people are very close to one end of the spectrum or another, and it’s all fine. Our positions on that spectrum can also vary over time.

Chances are, you’ll start to feel something you’ve never felt before. For lack of better words, let’s call it a chill. For most guys, the chill is centered around your genital region. However, it is possible for the chill to be as high up as the top of your head, or as low as your toes.

You may want to speed up your hand movement, so it is going up and down really fast. You can do that if you want.

Some boys become wet at the tip of their penis with a harmless drop or two of a slippery liquid called ‘cowper’s fluid,’ or ‘pre-cum.’ Some guys have a lot of pre-cum, some have little or none, there is no right or wrong amount.

Now, some boys have quit at this point. The feelings scare them, so they stop the stimulation. That’s a shame. They are missing out on something very nice. We urge you to continue and find out what happens. Let the feeling build. Suddenly, the chill may become one of the best feelings you’ve ever had in your life. At the same time, you may feel rhythmic contractions in your penis and the area under your balls. Just let it happen and enjoy. Congratulations, you’ve had your first orgasm!

Depending on your age, thin, clear or white, thick liquid may spurt out of your penis. That’s semen, and you’re ejaculating. The amount may be very little. Young boys start with a single drip of clear semen. Fully mature men can ejaculate anything from a few clear drops to several tablespoons of white semen.

Wasn’t as great as you expected? Sometimes that happens with your first few orgasms. As you become more relaxed, more used to the situation, they can build into something truly fantastic.

Masturbation Variations

Now that you are a wanker (masturbater), you might want to explore some variations.

Perhaps the most common variation is to insert your fingers or an object into your anus. Whatever you use should be smooth and clean. Use some slippery cream or oil if you need additional lubrication. At first, don’t go in too deep, or use something too big around. There’s lots of time for careful exploration of the limits later.

You might prefer to use rubber gloves if you are averse to the possibility of getting some poop on your fingers.

You may find your anus is very tight. This can happen to many guys. The muscles can contract really hard. There is no need to force anything. Use lots of lube, and start with something thin. You don’t want something so thin or pointy that it could injure you, of course. Take your time. Relax. Breathe deep. If you can’t get it in today, you have all the rest of your life to work on it.

Here’s more about anal play:

Avoid anything that’s dangerous such as wood that can splinter, light bulbs that can shatter, and so on. Avoid chemicals such as toothpaste, soap, or anything that can’t be removed. More than one person has been taken to the emergency room because they put something in their ass that they couldn’t get out. It’s terribly embarrassing. Get it? Em-bare-ass-ing.

Another very interesting erogenous area can be your scrotum. Erogenous means a place that if touched can feel sexual. You might start with a very light touch or stroking of your scrotum with your fingertips.

There are a few guys, mostly younger guys, who are flexible enough that they can suck their own penis. You may like to try this, a lot of guys do, but most can’t reach. Some of those guys that try do not end up liking what they are doing, others enjoy it tremendously. In any case, you should never risk hurting yourself in any way trying.

Give your nipples a try. You might think as a guy, your nipples aren’t sensitive like what girls have. Wrong-O. Try very lightly running your fingertips over one of your nipples while masturbating. See if you can tell a difference in the feeling between your right and left nipples.

Many guys enjoy edging. That’s the practice of getting close to orgasm, then stopping before you have to ejaculate. After a minute, you can edge again. Unless you ejaculate, you can stay aroused as long as you want, getting close to orgasm each time.

Going a step further, you can take edging so close to the edge of ejaculating that you’re actually having orgasms, but nothing comes out. You can do it over and over, staying hard and interested for as long as you want. This does take practice. At first, you’ll cum too soon, or you’ll slip off the edge and have to build the feeling up again. Once you’ve had some dry orgasms, your body learns what you want, and it actually becomes easier. Experts don’t need to bring any sort of towels to bed, because they know they’ll have orgasm after orgasm without ever cumming. You can find out more about this and many other techniques at Advanced Male Masturbation.

How often can I masturbate?

You can masturbate several times a day, and in fact most post-adolescent boys and men masturbate on average at least once a day. There is a limit, but it’s hard to reach. One guy told me he ejaculated eleven times in a single day. I knew a fellow who had some swelling in his neck, and it became hard to swallow because some glands had become swollen. He went to a doctor, who told him to keep his masturbation down to once or twice a day. The glands went back to normal size in a week.

What if I don’t masturbate enough?

Masturbation is not required. There are people who never masturbate. They are under the mistaken belief that masturbation is bad or evil in some way. After many days of not masturbating, they will sometimes have ‘wet dreams.’ These are dreams where they have orgasms and ejaculate in their sleep. The dreams that accompany this can be quite vivid.

As the horniness builds up in a person who refuses to masturbate, they can become quite grouchy to their friends and relatives.

Can I masturbate with others?

Yes, you can, but there are some things you might like to know:

Masturbating by yourself is far and away the safest form of sex.

In this era of Covid-19, simply breathing near someone else can be dangerous. Plus, you could catch a cold or the flu without even touching anyone.


If you touch someone, the concern increases. You can end up with jock itch, crabs (little insects that live in body hair and are hard to get rid of), or monkeypox.

If you kiss, or do anything involving contact with the genitals, the danger increases yet again, including rather horrible skin diseases, and herpes, a life-long annoyance.

Finally, if you mix bodily fluids, or have any sort of sexual penetration, the risk is even higher. You could catch AIDS. Contrary to popular belief AIDS isn’t something only passed among gay men. That disease can be contracted by men or women and from men or women.

So, if you can be satisfied with solo masturbation, that’s your best bet. Solo has many advantages. You masturbate when, where and how you want. There is no need to compromise with another person’s desires.

However, if you do want to engage in mutual masturbation, you’re still safer than engaging in other sexual activities.

Mutual masturbation takes many forms, but the most common are:

0. Sharing and comparing. This is not masturbation at all, but you and your friends may like to look at each other naked, noticing penis and scrotum size and shape, ass shape, colorations on the parts of your bodies, and the amount of hair on your bodies.

1. Playing doctor. This is surprisingly common among young children. The adult version is to get naked with a friend or several friends, and pretend you are undergoing a medical exam or procedure that involves the genitals. With the youngsters, playing doctor is not necessarily masturbatory or even sexual. With adults, anything can happen!

2. You and one or more friends are near each other, possibly watching and conversing while each person only touches themselves.

3. You masturbate your friend, and then your friend masturbates you. This way, you each get to enjoy the full feelings of being touched, without having to focus on satisfying the other person at the same time.

4. You get in a position where each is masturbating the other at the same time.

Assuming you have a brother, sister, cousin or friend who is interested, this can be your masturbation partner.

Quite often, mutual masturbation can include mouth-to-genital activities. Typically, this would be sucking on a penis, known as ‘blowjob’ or ‘fellatio,’ or licking a vagina, known as ‘going down on,’ ‘eating out,’ or ‘cunnilingus.’ This is more risky, and I’d really suggest avoiding anything oral. Since you can give and get delightful orgasms strictly with hands, there’s no need for anything more.

Assuming you are under 18 years old, it is a bad idea to masturbate with anyone older than 18 years old. The older person can get in legal trouble for being sexual with an underage person. Furthermore, they can persuade you to do things you’re not ready for. Oddly, sexual activity, even if just mutual masturbation, between someone younger than 18, and someone older, can have unexpected lifelong psychological consequences for the young person.

If someone older wants to masturbate, or do anything sexual with you, and you don’t want it, you are well within your rights to say “No.” If that person bothers you continually, badgers you, tries to blackmail you, or physically forces you to get sexual in any way, that’s rape. Yup, rape can happen to boys, just like it can with girls. If you feel this might happen, let a responsible adult know the details of your concern.

Just to be safe, I’d recommend washing your hands before and after mutual masturbation.

If you’re masturbating with a boy, you can do the same things to him that you enjoy. Make sure your hands are warm, and check whether the other person is ticklish. Otherwise, you may not get the reactions you were hoping for.

Boy's Guide to Masturbation - Mutual masturbation with a boy

If you’re masturbating with a girl, she is likely to enjoy more massage-style action than you might like. You can rub anything from her head to her feet before masturbating her, and she’ll really appreciate it. In fact, if you jump right in and attack her vagina with your fingers, she may not enjoy that at all. Work up slowly.

Girl's Guide to Masturbation - Masturbating a Boy

Once she’s warmed up, she is likely to enjoy gently rubbing her clitoris, a little button between folds of skin near the top of the vagina:

Boy's Guide to Masturbation - mutual masturbation with a girl

Masturbation partners can become insistent. They quite often want to violate common sense and will try to talk you into things you don’t want to do. Let the person know in no uncertain terms, that you don’t want to take that risk, and that if they insist, everything good stops right away. If they don’t stop, it is rape, a very serious legal problem for them.

I shouldn’t even have to mention this, but if you find yourself in a situation where intercourse is going to happen, either having sex with a girl, or anal intercourse with a boy, you’ll want to make sure to use a proper contraceptive. That’s something that will supposedly prevent pregnancy and STDs. Contraceptives are not perfect. They fail all too often.

The most common contraceptive is condoms, also known as ‘rubbers.’ These are thin rubber coverings that you can unroll over your penis. That will (supposedly) keep your semen – containing sperm – within the condom, and not let it into a vagina or anus. It is not much help when it comes to crabs, herpes, and a variety of other diseases.

Girl's Guide to Masturbation, Applying a Condom
Applying a condom

Basically, masturbation, and other things you can do besides intercourse (also known as ‘coitus,’ ‘sexual congress,’ ‘balling,’ ‘banging’ or ‘fucking’), makes a lot more sense, and turns out to be just as enjoyable. Some will say even more enjoyable!

What if I want to masturbate with a guy? Does that make me gay?

Not necessarily. Many men have had man-to-man experiences, yet they end up happily married to a woman. Of course, if you are gay, also known as ‘homosexual,’ that’s become much more acceptable in today’s society. There’s nothing morally wrong with homosexuality. The only problem you may run into is that there are people in our society who are very down on things they don’t understand, and may give you a hard time, even including violence.

What’s the scoop on pornography?

Why do we watch porn?

  • Curious of what others have
  • Curious of what the other sex has
  • What is sex “really” like?
  • It’s exciting
  • We know it is naughty, this turns us on even more
  • Risk of getting caught is exciting even if it is scary
  • Helps me fantasize, turns me on, makes me really horny

Is porn real?

Much of porn is staged, faked. Some is totally real. It is very hard to tell the difference. The bottom line is that it is entertainment. Many of the porn actors are not typical. They may have overly large breasts or dicks, they may shoot out extraordinary amounts of semen, they may have amazing staying power before they orgasm, they may scream and yell and carry on, they may be especially good looking, and so on.

Porn addiction

Masturbation is not usually addictive. Pornography may be addictive. Here’s how you can tell that you’ve become addicted: If your studies or relationships have changed, if you’re doing poorly in school, or don’t have as much time for your friends and family, you may be addicted.

Most addictions are so difficult to overcome that you’ll need professional help. It may be difficult to bring it up with your parents, but that’s the place to start. If you just can’t, then perhaps another responsible adult can help. That could be a trusted teacher, family member, or the parent of one of your friends. Addictions, whether eating disorders, drug use, or sexual disorders are not something to be ashamed of. They happen to millions of people. In fact, you can be very proud that you’re seeking help.

What happens after an orgasm?

A variety of thing can happen. Not all of these will happen to you although some of these may happen sometimes:

1. You may want another orgasm immediately, but your penis softens, and you can’t get it hard again.

2. You may immediately be able to give yourself another orgasm.

3. You may not want an orgasm, or to do anything sexual, for anywhere from a few minutes to many days.

4. You may have mild pain or itching. That will go away soon. If in the very rare circumstance you feel great pain, let your parents know. You may need to see a doctor.

You can be sore because your skin became worn. You might even get blisters. Next time, be gentler and use lube. This usually goes away in a few days.

You may also have a dull ache in your penis. This is caused because your penis isn’t used to being erect and stimulated for such a long time. The problem goes away after a year or two. In the meantime, try to masturbation for shorter periods of time.

5. You may feel guilty. This is unfortunately common. It’s due to the influence on you from all the old-school misinformation still hanging around that masturbation is supposedly bad.

6. You may feel weak or tired. This can happen after your first orgasms. If it happens later on, you might want to look at other lifestyle issues. Perhaps you’re stressed, not getting enough sleep, or not eating a fully nutritious diet.

7. You can feel tired and completely spent, your head unable to think of or do something properly for a while, this is totally normal. A lot of guys will have a nap after masturbating.

What if something isn’t quite right?

As human beings, we tend to worry about things. 99% of the things we worry about turn out to be nothing. Sexual matters tend to be worse, because we are reluctant to discuss them with our parents, doctors, or any other adult.

If you have a concern, communication is the best approach. Most of the time, when you express your worry to an adult, they can put your worries to bed. For instance, when I was around 8 years old, I got the idea to put some tape around my penis just below the glans. The tape stuck really well. I couldn’t get it off and became really worried. I went to my father. He didn’t yell. He didn’t laugh. Instead, he put some lighter fluid on the tape, which weakened the glue, and was able to remove the tape easily. Worry gone! You may have other concerns, perhaps a discharge, an itch, or a concern that you have caused damage due to an unusual masturbation technique.

What if I need to see a doctor?

Girl's Guide to Masturbation - Medical Issues

Doctors are there to help you, not to hurt you.

They see penises, scrotums, and anuses every single day, they will not have any sexual charge, or any concern about seeing yours. They will maintain your privacy while being examined. Only the doctor, possibly an adult chaperone, and anyone who you specifically allow will be present while you’re examined. Normally, after puberty, your parents are not allowed to be in the exam room, unless you give your permission.

Doctors cannot tell, and don’t care if you have masturbated. Well, there is one exception. If you masturbated shortly before visiting the doctor, he may see semen oozing out of your peehole. Still, to the doctor, that’s no big deal. It’s like looking in your ear. There may or may not be earwax.

Doctors masturbate as well.

We mentioned misinformation once or twice. Here are some common misbeliefs:

  • I will lose my eyesight.
  • God will chop my hands off.
  • Masturbation makes me bald, sick, hair on my palms.
  • Bad for my health.
  • Stunts my growth.
  • Stops my penis from growing to full size.
  • My penis will wither or fall off.
  • Affects puberty.
  • My parents can smell if I have masturbated.

What is going on inside me?

Let’s start with a fun little anatomy lesson. Take a good look between your legs. Don’t be scared. You are not doing anything wrong, and you should not feel dirty. Try and relax as best you can. The area between your legs is your external genitalia consisting primarily of your testicles and penis, also known as ‘cock’ or ‘dick’ and ‘balls.’ The testicles are glands that make sperm, which are millions of microscopic, little cells that can mate with an egg in a woman and make her pregnant. When we ejaculate, also known as ‘cumming,’ which we’ll talk about shortly, your sperm are mixed with a liquid called semen from the prostate gland. The semen flows though the same tube in your penis that urine (pee) flows through. It’s called the ‘urethra.’

Here’s how all that stuff is arranged inside:

Boy's Masturbation Guide - male anatomy

So, ejaculating, or cumming, is the process of squirting out semen. The original purpose was to make women pregnant for the continuation of humankind. In order to encourage men to do that, the process feels very nice – very enjoyable! However, the opportunity to have intercourse with a woman, to put your penis in her, does not come along often, so as luck would have it, you get to enjoy the same feeling all by yourself. This process of making yourself ejaculate is called ‘masturbation.’ Masturbation doesn’t always have to end in ejaculation. Masturbation includes pretty much anything that makes you feel good in a sexual way.

I don’t look the same ‘down there’ as other boys or men. What’s up with that?

Not all boys are created equal. Some have large penises, some have small ones. Some have light ones, some are dark. The good news is that no matter what kind of penis you have, the feelings are just the same.

As you can see in the pictures, each person’s penis can be quite different than others.

Some people put great importance on penis size. That’s actually crazy but you may run into it from time to time. Generally, men assume women are more attracted to large penises. When you ask the women, however, most will say the size doesn’t matter at all. Instead, they’re much more interested in men with good personalities.

Depending on your age, you may or may not have hair in your genital region. Your penis and testicles may be small or large.

Something else you may notice is that some guys have foreskins, and some do not.

Boy's Guide to Masturbation - Circumcision

We are all born with foreskins. However, another weirdness in our society that we are slowly outgrowing is called ‘circumcision.’ This is a procedure in which the excess skin at the end of the penis is cut off. This is usually done when a baby is only a few days old. Some time, way in the past, it was assumed that a man could not keep an uncircumcised penis clean, and that circumcision eliminated that problem. However, like so many traditions, it lives on with no purpose. Many scientific studies have shown that an uncircumsized penis is just fine. In fact, there are complications with circumcision.

In a few unfortunate cases, after circumcision, an infection can begin. In very severe and extremely rare cases, the penis has to be amputated, or the baby may actually lose his life.

Perhaps even more tragically, doctors until as late as the 1980s had this crazy assumption that babies don’t feel pain. So they cut off their foreskins without anesthesia. I guess the babies just screamed and cried during the procedure because that’s what babies do, right?

Even with anesthesia, there’s a multi-day healing process, in which anything touching the area of the circumcision would be quite painful. I don’t think a baby could enjoy having a urine-soaked diaper touching his wound.

Sometimes uncircumcised boys survive all the way to adolescence or even adulthood before they get circumcised. The usual reason is what’s called ‘phimosis.’ This is a rather common condition in which the opening at the end of the foreskin is too tight. The foreskin cannot be slid back exposing the head of the penis (called the ‘glans.’) This can cause masturbation or intercourse to be painful, or even impossible. The end of the foreskin with phimosis can also become irritated or even infected.

How can you tell if you’ve been circumcised? Most circumcised men will have a brownish scar all the way around their penis usually about one centimeter (1/2-inch) behind the glans.

Circumcision Scar

What if you have phimosis? Does it hurt to masturbate? Can you not see your entire glans? Well, there’s good news. First, you probably won’t need a circumcision. You can do exercises that will eventually make it possible to pull your foreskin all the way back. More good news: You have to be erect to do these exercises, and they can be like masturbating – lots of fun!

There is also a simpler procedure than circumcision. Instead of cutting a ring of foreskin all the way off, it is slit along the top. This is called “dorsal slit.’ Once that heals, you can pull the foreskin back just fine.

Most men and women have at least some degree of body dysmorphia. That’s where you don’t think you look good. This can be nearly crippling for many people. Interestingly, some of the best looking people think they look terrible. Chances are you are much better looking than you realize.

Pornography can give guys a real complex about the size of their penis. In porn, when someone talks about penis size, they usually say their penis is anywhere from 7 to 9 inches (17 to 23 centimeters) long when erect. Those are almost always exaggerations. In the real world, the average erect penis is 5-1/2 inches (14 cm) and many are much smaller. Contrary to popular belief, women almost never turn a man down due to the size of his penis. If they’re going to dislike a guy, its because of his personality. If you tease your girl, make her do things she doesn’t want, take advantage of her, or worst of all, don’t really listen to her, she’ll find someone else, and it won’t matter about the size of his dick.

Are there unsafe masturbation practices?

Yes, totally.

  • Your urethra (peehole) is very susceptible to infection. It is best not to stick anything into the urethra. If you must do so, make sure the object is sterile and smooth. The urethral walls can tear easily, and bleed profusely.
  • It is possible to put something in your anus that you can’t remove. Things with sharp edges are especially problematic for obvious reasons. If you must put big things in, make sure a string is firmly attached so you can pull it back out. Better yet, don’t put big things in there.
  • Any sort of exchange of bodily fluids with another person could cause you a lifetime of illness.
  • There is no need to combine masturbation with use of drugs, alcohol, or dangerous practices such as cutting. Masturbation by itself is totally enjoyable.
  • When it comes to mutual masturbation or other forms of two-person sex, be very careful who you associate with. Some people are terribly abusive.
  • Keep your masturbation private. In the heat of the moment, you may let someone participate who will blab all over town, or worse, post your pictures or video on the Internet. You can never undo that.

So, what are some safe masturbation practices?

  • Add peeing into your masturbation practice. Playing with peeing is often called ‘watersports.’
  • Masturbate outdoors in a safe and secluded space.
  • Lay on one or more pillows, and rub against them, called pillow humping.
  • Edging. This is the idea of getting close to orgasm but putting it off for as long as you can.
  • Masturbate on webcam, but only with a trusted friend. Do not keep recordings of your masturbatory times.
  • Expand your fantasy life while masturbating.
  • Medibation is the combination of meditation and masturbation. It can take any form you wish from mindful masturbation, to letting your mind be as clear as you can while masturbating.
  • It is possible to read, listen to music, watch videos, and even study while masturbating.

An Extremely Enjoyable Homework Assignment for Men

I’d like to propose the following homework assignment.

You can complete this assignment by yourself, or with friends, family, or coworkers, assuming they’re onboard.

OK, here’s your assignment:

1. Get naked and comfortable in your usual way.

2. Start masturbating.

3. Your objective is to release a single drop of cum.

4. You may not believe that it is possible. You may wonder exactly how to accomplish that.

Here’s what you do: Bring yourself close to orgasm, but stop before you ejaculate. Don’t stop for long. Take only a second or two before you resume stimulation. Stop, or maybe even just slow down as often as you need.

5. As you practice, you may start feeling a sort of chill, or springiness happening in your body, which you’ve experienced before as an early stage of orgasm. Focus on that, and let it build. It can become super-strong. Pretty soon, you’ll notice that you’re actually orgasming, but nothing is coming out. Furthermore, you stay aroused and erect, and you can maintain that orgasm continuously, or have it go away and come back numerous times.

6. It takes real skill to go one level deeper, and release a single drop of cum, so you probably won’t succeed on your first attempt. You may have to practice this many times before you have a breakthrough.

7. Don’t be surprised if in your early sessions, you fall away from orgasming and have to build up again several times, or go over the edge with a full ejaculation.

8. After the first time you release a single drop of semen, your body seems to understand what you want to accomplish, and it becomes easier. It is not uncommon for an expert, someone with years of practice, to release a drop every few minutes, three or four times. At the end he may be satisfied with never having fully ejaculated, or he may prefer to end his sessions with a crashing ejaculation.

A variation that is somewhat easier to accomplish, and probably just as nice overall, is to give yourself continuous dry orgasms. Everything is the same, but your goal is not to produce drops of semen, but to have orgasms complete with urethral contractions, in which nothing comes out.

You may feel that this is fiction. Let me assure you that although it is an uncommon practice, I, and thousands of other guys have actually learned to have continuous one-drop or dry orgasms.

Once you master the technique, you can discuss it, maybe even demonstrate it to other people, and you’ll be promoting the many physical and mental health benefits of masturbation.

Parents’ Guide to Masturbation

Children will play with their genitals from the earliest age. This should not be discouraged. Instead, it should be discussed and directed. Children should be guided to healthy attitudes about masturbation and sex.

People are just waking up to how badly children were treated in the past. For instance, some babies were tied into cribs with their arms inserted into cardboard carpet tubes, so they couldn’t reach their own genitals.

A Dr. Harvey Kellogg put silver wire sutures into boy’s penises so that erections would be impossible without great pain. Yes, this is the same guy who, along with his brother, invented corn flakes. The reason for corn flakes as a food was that they would supposedly somewhat sedate the kids, so they’d be less likely to masturbate.

What’s normal at an early age?

As soon as babies are old enough to reach out and touch anything, they are likely to be fascinated by their own genitals. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s natural and has been going on for thousands of years.

Boys will have erections. This can happen so early that erections have been seen in ultrasounds of the womb. To boys before adolescence, these erections have little meaning. For them, there is little or no sexual meaning to the erection. The boys may find their erections momentarily interesting, but that’s all. It’s not uncommon for a boy to say, “Look, Mom,” while pointing at his erect little willy.

Many boys will get an erection when they need to pee due to the pressure on the nerves controlling the bladder. This may mean that they pull at their penises and may also do when they are nervous, tired, or just in need of emotional support or something to do. They do feel pleasure from this, but it can’t really be called masturbation.

Little girls may stick their fingers into their vaginas and enjoy the feeling. That doesn’t mean anything sexual. They just find it interesting and enjoyable. Not much different than using their fingers to explore an ear.

It used to be assumed that most girls were virgins, meaning they had intact hymens over their vaginal canals until their first sexual intercourse. It turns out that many girls do not have intact hymens from an early age due to an assortment of activities such as bike or horseback riding, acrobatics, or tree climbing, but also masturbation with objects. Yes, many girls will do this from a young age.

Parent's Guide to Masturbation - Hymen

How do you keep your kids from touching themselves in public?

This is done in the same way that you teach them to stay clothed, not lose their shoes, not pick their noses, and brush their teeth. Lots of gentle repetition of rules.

The most important thing is that they are not being told off, admonished, and disciplined. The rules with respect to touching themselves are that it is fine to do it, but it is something we can do in the privacy of our own bedrooms and not in public.

Sexual Awakening

Starting before or during adolescence, most children will start to take an interest in sexuality. They generally don’t do much to act on it, but they start having sexual thoughts, and may start playing in more focused ways with their genitals.

For better or worse, the Internet plays a big role in sexual awakening these days. The kids find ways to see adult material on the web. It’s not hard to do. Any child can access Wikipedia, and learn a lot, even about deviant sexual practices. That’s why this website isn’t heavily restricted. Youngsters will find a way to get in to all kinds of crazy porn sites, and if they’re going to do that, then at least here, they’ll find accurate and important information.

So, you ought to be prepared for some questions you might find quite awkward.

How do you handle questions from your kids?

Handle sexual questions just like you’d respond to anything else: Truthfully, and as completely as makes sense in the context. Otherwise you can cause confusion that can have long-term psychological consequences.

You might enjoy this true story of a poorly answered question:

A six-year-old girl noticed a construction crew on the street in front of her house. Fascinated, she ran out to the curb to watch the men at work. One of the men felt she got too close, and he flicked her the bird and scowled. You know, he elevated his middle finger at her.

She ran back inside, and asked her mom what that meant, showing her the same gesture.

“It’s about getting pregnant, dear.” The mother then resumed her cooking giving the child no more attention.

Over the next few days, the little girl gave it a whole lot of thought and became terribly worried, thinking, “I can’t get pregnant. I don’t know anything about taking care of a baby.”

Basically, she freaked out.

Fast forward forty years, and this girl, now a woman, had one failed marriage, and never dated since. She literally couldn’t look men in the eye.

In a successful NLP session (Neuro-Linguistic Programming, much like psychology), the woman was brought back to that long-forgotten memory, and it was discovered that it had unconsciously affected her all these many years later. After she became aware of what was happening, she was able go to out dancing with men that very weekend.

Not all adults work these problems out so easily and so well. In fact, many live their entire lives with phobias, deviant or addictive behaviors, stress disorders, and other complications.

That’s why we don’t molest kids. Even seemingly simple acts can have life-long negative consequences.

Here are some examples of how to handle awkward questions:

Child: “What’s a hardon?”

Parent: “That’s when a man’s penis gets larger and harder. It’s often called an ‘erection.’

Child: “Jamie called me a faggot. What does that mean?”

Parent: “It’s a term to describe someone who loves people of the same sex. You might see two men together, or two women together. They may kiss and everything else. When Jamie calls you that, he is trying to make you mad. He doesn’t know what he’s talking about. If he keeps doing it, let me know, OK?”

Child: “Why does it feel nice when I wipe the pee from my vagina?”

Parent: “You have a lot of nerve endings there.”

Child: “How come my sister is getting boobs?”

Parent: “She may have babies someday. Women feed babies milk that’s formed in their breasts.”

Child: “I saw my brother rubbing his penis, which was really huge, and then some white stuff spurted out.”

Parent: “Yeah, that’s called ‘masturbation’ or ‘jerking off.’ It feels nice. As you get older, you may want to do that also. It’s like practicing for when he’ll be married. When that white stuff goes in a woman, it can help her make babies.”

Child: “Sandra said that Professor Dumbledore’s arm turned black because he was wanking. What does that mean?”

Parent: “Wanking is a boy touching his penis. Sandra may believe that, but it’s not true.”

The day will come when your children will start masturbating in earnest. Typically, you won’t know anything about it, but there may be hints. Your kid may stay in her room with the door closed for long periods of time. Your son’s blanket may start getting crusty. Give them their privacy.

Some parents will even give their children locks for their doors. This is good and bad. It lets the kids know that you know, and it’s OK to masturbate in their rooms. If they don’t figure that out on their own, you might come right out and say, “If you feel like masturbating in the privacy of your room, that’s just fine. I did it when I was your age.”

The downside of providing locks is a safety issue. You’d want to know if there was a fire or medical emergency, you wouldn’t have a locked door standing between your child and the that help the child may need.

If you can manage to talk calmly with your children about masturbation, it will have the added benefit that anything else that needs to be communicated with your children will be easier for them to bring up. I mean, you’d want to know if your child is having trouble with math, is being bullied, is confused about spirituality, is having suicidal thoughts, has been introduced to drugs, and so on, right? They’ll be much more open about this, if they haven’t felt a need to hide anything, even masturbation, from you.

What if you discover your child masturbating?

Stay calm for the child’s sake. Just let the kid know that you understand, you masturbate also, but that it should be as much a private activity as possible.

What if your child starts exhibiting deviant behavior?

Perhaps your child spends a lot of time spying on a sibling trying to see him or her naked. Perhaps your child tries to make a show of being nude in the house or publicly masturbating. Perhaps your child is doing something dangerous, such as sticking objects into a peehole.

First and foremost. Don’t freak out. Most children have deviations from time to time. However, gentle conversation and guidance is the best solution. If the behavior doesn’t straighten out, you might like to find a proper professional, such as a child psychologist. Please understand that some professionals such as clergy, pediatricians, or school personnel don’t have the necessary training to help and could make things worse.

As to sexuality, your child is likely to grow into a normal, healthy adult. The bigger concerns you should watch for are inappropriate peer influence, drug use, trouble with schoolwork, or narcissistic tendencies.

Five Minutes

New masturbation technique - continuous orgasm lasting over 5 minutes

So, last night, as my wife lay sleeping, I woke up around 3am. That happens sometimes, and when it does, I have trouble getting back to sleep. Therefore, I usually get up and do something, such as writing posts for my website.

But last night, I just stayed in bed and started touching my cock to get it hard. Then I started masturbating, and as is my practice of the last ten years or so, I bring myself to a light ongoing orgasmic state, but don’t ejaculate. Now that I’m practiced, I can stay in a heavy orgasmic state, complete with occasional contractions of the urethra, for over five minutes.

That may not sound like much to you, but just try counting out sixty seconds, and imagine yourself in continuous orgasm for five times that long.

I had an idea, and since I wasn’t sleepy, I grabbed my phone and went into the living room. I reclined on the sofa, and set up the stopwatch function on my phone.

I started wanking, and since I had recently been in orgasm for a while, and hadn’t ejaculated, it didn’t take but a moment to get hard again and then start in on orgasm. I started the stopwatch.

I kept wanking, but varying the speed of stroking from zero to several strokes per second, depending on the level of my orgasm. If I thought I might accidentally ejaculate, I slowed down. If the feeling was starting to subside, I picked up the pace.

I should describe the feeling. Of course you know what an orgasm feels like, but when you extend it way out like this, it’s somewhat different, and dare I say, even more enjoyable. It’s a chill that mostly affects the genital region, but sometimes I also feel it in my stomach, my neck, and even the top of my head. Strange, but true, I know. It’s more than a remarkable chill. I call it ‘springs and chills.’

Until now, I had just assumed I could stay in orgasm for 5 minutes. I never actually timed it. On this occasion, according to the stopwatch, I finally fell off, without ejaculating, after 5 minutes and ten seconds.

Do you want to learn to do the same thing? It’s fairly easy, and I believe any man or woman can learn it. Perhaps it’s easier for some women, because they don’t actually ejaculate, and many women can have several orgasms in a single session. When a man ejaculates, his mood generally shifts so that he doesn’t want any more stimulation.

Whether you are a man or a woman, here’s what you do:

1. Become sexually aroused.

2. Get close to having an orgasm, then back off.

3. But back off only for a moment, and maybe not completely. In other words, you might want to maintain light stroking, as long as it won’t drive you over the edge of an ejaculation, or a crashing orgasm if you’re a woman.

4. Really concentrate on what you’re feeling in your body. After a while you can get the chills, and maintain that state by backing off if you’re too close to ejaculating, and ramp up the stimulation if you’re starting to fall off. Soon, you can stay in the chills state for ever-longer periods of time.

You may not think this is an ‘orgasm’ because you’re not ejaculating, or not pulsating, but it is truly orgasm. You’re feeling the chills, right? And if you’re more experienced, you’re getting occasional contractions.

I’ve been in this orgasmic state to where it’s actually stronger and more delightful than an ejaculatory orgasm.

When I am finally done, it’s often because I’ve lost interest, and never did ejaculate. Now, some guys may have trouble believing this, but even though I don’t always ‘cum’ I feel totally satisfied.

Maybe you can’t believe any of this. All I can say is you need to try it for yourself. Patience may be required. You may think it’s fiction until the day you actually find yourself in a continuous dry orgasm.

I’m a Nudist Nonbinary Man

I'm a nudist nonbinary man and I masturbate

I’ve never felt like I was fully a man. There was no doubt about it
physically and I was always interested in my body and in masturbation. But
while I loved women, I never had that desperate need that so many men have;
in fact, I was seldom able to perform adequately with a woman, no matter how
much I loved her. And while I’ve always had a strong feminine side, and
have dressed essentially androgynously (jeans, shorts, t-shirts/tank tops,
sandals, and I love wearing short men’s skirts), that was the extent of it.

Complicating this was serious PTSD from being sexually abused at a very
young age by my grandfather. I’ve slowly recovered vague memories of him
having me be his “naked slave”, a pattern of behavior that resurfaced after
the divorce from my first wife, and which I adopted completely – the idea
that because I could not perform with women I had to become a slave to the
Goddess and serve her through naked service to women. There’s nothing wrong
with that if it’s sincere. The article “Slave Michael” here on is about my life when I was seeing myself as a slave.

Then I caught Covid, which was mild, followed by long Covid, which laid me
low. I was bedridden for weeks, with a slow recovery to follow. It
affected my brain and my thinking, and as I came back to life I realized
that the PTSD and slavery had vanished. While I still love to be and be
seen naked, the urge to submit myself to a subservient relationship was

While I was sick I got acquainted with current thinking about gender
identity, and soon realized that, in modern terms, I am nonbinary. I
strongly identify physically as male, but sexually I’m female. This is why
my sexual relations were not successful – I was supposed to be the one
getting fucked. I realized I had lost all interest in having sex with
women. Like most men, I’ve experimented with anal sex and liked it OK.
Alright, more than OK when it came to wearing a butt plug and the few
occasions when a woman used a dildo on me. But the thought of being fucked
by a man was anathema to me. I obtained a dildo which is almost exactly like
my own penis but two inches longer, and using it on myself turned out to be a
delight, so much so that I began collecting photos of attractive penises from
the Internet, having prints made of the best ones, and fantasizing about them
being used on me.

Oddly enough, though, I still have absolutely no actual
sexual interest in other men – I just want to be fucked by a beautiful penis.
It was a revelation to find that there was very little actually sexual about
being fucked, but I love not only how it feels but also the idea of having
to allow my body to be penetrated and used for someone else’s pleasure, for
as long as he wants to. But the pandemic, and then monkeypox, make it all
too obvious that it’s way too risky to be meeting people I don’t know well
and allowing them to use my body these days.

Michael, nonbinary nudist

I’ve lived for years as a smooth (shaved) nudist full time at home, and
sometimes when visiting friends. My useless-for-sexual-relations genitals
are not just visible all the time, the lack of pubic hair puts them on
display. It’s impossible for me to ignore them. The realization that they
can only be used for masturbation now has freed me to see them in a
different light: that’s what they’re for, and there’s no shame or guilt in
it, any more than using my legs to walk around, because it’s no longer about
sex in the traditional sense. I don’t do it because I feel deprived or
sneaky, I do it because it brings me pure, unadulterated joy. And honestly,
is there anything more beautiful than a big erection?

Things I think about when I masturbate:

* Having my anus exposed and available all the time

* Going out in a skirt and getting fucked

* Having friends who come to my house and fuck me sometimes

* The first time I get fucked being videoed and posted online

* Living as a roommate with a man, on the condition that I live naked all the time and he can fuck me

* There are lots of photos on the Internet, most on Wikimedia, of me naked that get lots of views and that I can’t take down, and I think about people looking at those and seeing me the way I actually live.

* People seeing my naked pictures on the Internet and thinking about me getting fucked

* Also people looking at pictures of my bare feet on the Internet

* Always being naked and shaved with my genitals on display

* Everyone knowing my genitals will never again be used for sex with another

person, and that they are only for viewing and masturbation

* People reading this article

I don’t masturbate with the goal of ejaculating, quite the opposite. I’m a
tantric edger, getting high on sexual energy, and prolonging the high for as
long as possible. In that respect, masturbation is sacred, since tanra is
one of the seven yogas, on a par with the hatha yoga practiced by many.
There is a spiritual element to the high that elevates the spirit and lasts
afterwards. In the interest of keeping the plumbing healthy, I do
occasionally cum, and it’s a rare treat when I do.

Nonbinary Michael masturbating

Sometimes I will take yohimbe, an herb which acts a lot like Viagra, and
spend hours enjoying the extended state of arousal. It also makes my body
look sexier to me, especially being shaved. I wish I could feel like that
all the time, but the herb has side effects that make it impractical for me
to use it too often. The new freedom I feel about masturbating means
promoting and dedicating time to it no longer carries any stigma. After
all, how is it any worse a thing to do than to self-indulge watching
football and drinking beer all day? And I wind up feeling fulfilled, not

I should add that I never masturbate around others unless it’s part of the
context of a situation. Similarly, if a visitor is not comfortable with
nudity, I wear clothes in their presence. I get no pleasure from someone
else’s discomfort. I do often regret that necessity, since it’s all about
pleasure and joy, but members of this society are conditioned from early in
life to be ashamed of their bodies, and to fear being in the presence of
nudity. I would love for masturbation to be widely viewed as I view it, a
personal activity that’s good for physical and mental health, and not one
more thing to feel inhibited and guilty about. Maybe someday we’ll get

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